Kadhi Bo!

If you have a moment, head over here to this blog to read an interview with one of my favorite crafty mama friends, beadstress and jewelstress Kadhi Bo. Kadhi was one of the women who collaborated with me on the Spice Salon over the holidays. Interviews are always such an interesting peek into the personality and heart behind the actual art. She also manages to bust all this stuff out with a 1-year-old baby running around! 

All images courtesy of Kadhi Bo and Beautiful Rache


Make room for spring

I am still in Hawaii enjoying the last couple days of my trip and anticipating my homecoming to beloved California. Yay. Since I'll be home this week, I reactivated my shop, in which there are still a few items.  I am also having a mini sale via Instagram (@lostboysandlovers) where I'm selling off some awesome winter warm layers. Wool! bunny! cozy capes! Here are the items I'm selling - keep an eye on Instagram, and if you aren't on Instagram and want to buy one of these items, please email me at lostboysandlovers [at] gmail [dot] com. 

avant-garde black wool cocoon cota
1970s strawberry blond bunny fur bomber coat

white bunny fur coat

ivory wool poncho with knit collar

liz claiborne nightlife blazer

wool plaid poncho

collar detail

All items are $40 (plus shipping) except the ivory nightlife blazer, which is $20 (plus shipping). Many thanks to Hannah, my gorgeous model. 

I'm open to fantastic barter offers, too. and, on that note, I want to post here Milla's ideas on the barter system that she provided in response to my questions that I asked the other day:

1. Do not think of your or anyone else's goods in terms of what they'd sell for in the store, what you could sell them for, what it would cost to make them.

instead think of:

2. What something someone else made, collected, grew, concocted, is worth to you. For instance my boring old mustard (to me) can be traded for exciting and new fig jam! Which is someone else's boring old fig jam.

3. Don't think of the time it took you to make your stuff, think of the time it took the other person to make theirs. This will increase your appreciation of it. 

4. When you buy, you tend to think of need/want. Here you have the opportunity to explore and satisfy your needs and wants. New is just as valuable as tried and true. You get to try fig jam instead of raspberry.

5. Non monetary gains of bartering with friends and neighbors (or strangers). Connections, community building, local, organic, loved items. 

6. This is pretty much one of my core beliefs and informs a lot of what I try to do in my own community: TIME IS NOT MONEY. Ever. It's so shocking to me that people think of their own personal time as having value x therefor if it took them time x to make something its worth value x. Sure we all have to make rent and buy food, but beyond that we should do what we do out of love and fun and not think of it as billable hours.

7. Therefore, be fair. That's the only way this thing will work. Do not rejoice in a barter bargain unless it was a bargain for both parties. 

*Thanks, Milla, for sharing these points


Views and Perspectives

Here are some photos of what we've been up to lately. Asher is a champion of the ocean, and I never even knew it. I had never considered it. It's rare that I've even taken him to the ocean since we moved to California (I have, a few times) and when we used to go in Oregon, he was very small, and it was very cold. But here he will spend the whole day in the water, or running around in the sand creating statues with pieces of wood and shells. I admire him, actually. His energy and wild abandon when placed somewhere so free and glorious. The other day I caught myself sitting on the beach (in a sweatshirt) and watching him return again and again to the ocean as the waves brought him to shore. I was like that once, I thought, I was a child once and now I am not. Our children truly are the keepers of the future. in them, we invest our breath and being, our energy, our belief and beauty, and they carry it forth into the world for us. We watch them carry it gracefully, without thought, in their tiny bodies. 

We ventured the other day to the Kauai Hindu Monastery where we walked the grounds in a self-guided tour. At the entry way, there is a granite cauldron filled with ash. As we were getting ready to leave, one of the residents came up and asked if we had burned our troubles in the cauldron yet. He told Asher that any problems we have will disappear if we write them on paper and burn them in the cauldron. So, of course, we did. They provide a box of paper and a pen and lighter, and i tore a paper in half for me and Asher. 

I crammed almost more words than would fit on to my paper, trying to be succinct in expressing the tangle of emotions and thoughts that make up my "problems." I did okay. Asher handed me his paper, on which he had simply written, "I have growing pains in my knee."

And then together, we burned the papers. 



Ouma is an old favorite that i have posted about for many years, but i think it's been a long time. so here it is, a dose of delight. 

i love her photos, and the soft tulle paired with the bold stripes. 


Year of the Water Snake

Here we go! Today marks the first day of the new lunar year - the year of the water snake. Farewell, dragon year: thank you for your wild and challenging lessons that you brought on your wings. 

"This year let go of all attachments—emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual- that may be holding you back. Transform them, like the Water Snake, into something of value that will help you move ahead to the next level of your be-ing.  As with anything, you must research your past to detect patterns and behaviors that no longer work for you in order to change the course of the future."  (source)

How about you? Are you excited for this new incarnation and cycle? I don't know much about the water snake year yet, but I will continue to pass on what I find out. 

Far away

well, i did it. last week Asher and i got on a plane and we flew to Kauai. we are traveling together, mother and son, in a first-time, never-before-had adventure. we go on little adventures now and then - to the bay area and stuff - but this is, of course, very different. here there is so much more t i m e and so much more s p a c e to allow ourselves to l e t  g o of the things that tie up our every day being. 

this morning we awoke to two bright red birds stuck in the lanai in the house where we are staying. later in the day, a goat wandered into the yard and stared at her reflection in the side of a subaru, bleating, and then she ran off, hopefully toward home. 

in a valiant attempt at being even more adventurous tonight, i took Asher to a local show that ended up being terrible. so bad. jam band nightmare. we made it about 3 minutes and then asked the door guy for our cover charge back. he gave it to us, thankfully, because it was not cheap. i could go on and on about details of beach and sun, sand and fruit, but here are the most important things so far, in a nutshell:

wherever we go, our hearts follow
there is inspiration in the way that the ocean gives, then pulls firmly back
children should play in the ocean
the world is really big

here are some photos from the plane ride. i will post updated (read: more tanned) photos of us soon. 

in blog land, did you read my post on bartering? if not, you should - and you should leave a comment. Milla left a really long comment that I will probably re-post in a follow-up blog entry about the matter, since she is full of good ideas around it.  And speaking of Milla, she posted a doozy of a post today on love and marriage. real-life love stories are so profound. 


Bartering - how do we do it?

Lately I've been thinking a lot about bartering. As many of you ladies know, i love to barter. as do you. it's what we do best. it is so logical, so simple, so mutually beneficial, and no one is drained. it is, i think, an extremely positive exchange. 

however, i've noticed that often times a barter exchange is guided by the monetary/retail value of said items. i.e., "i would sell this for $20, so i can trade it for something worth $20." i know this is not always the case - but i do experience it a lot. perhaps i should speak only for myself. but in any case, even in speaking only for myself, how do we break this habit? how do we determine the worth of an item or service outside of its cash retail value? are some things more valuable than others? based on how long they last, how hard they were to create?

what are your thoughts on this? is it possible to remove bartering from the cash guidelines entirely? if so, what do we have to unlearn? perhaps this is a simple question and i am overlooking the answer. i would love to hear your thoughts on this. or stories. or memories, histories, ideas. 

and yes, i'm talking to all you brilliant, crafty, bartering babes who read this blog.